Assalamuaikum and good day to all.
Recently i was asked by one of my friend who is currently working in the UK, regarding how i actually cope being a wife to a super busy husband. For your information, im working as a doctor in one of the private practise with more flexible time, and my husband currently pursuing master of surgery in one of the local university.
So....is it tough?
Erm, i rather said it is challenging.
So there are a few tips that i think might help for those who are rowing the same boat with me.
1) Understanding
I think this is the core to the everlasting relationship.
It looks easy but trust me most couple separated because of this issue,especially if both spouse are coming from different field. The most important thing, is to understand your partner, and to love&support what he/she is doing as long as he/she never forsake their loved one.REMEMBER, if they dont call or text you,doesnt mean they forsake you, and im going to elaborate on the second important element which is TRUST.
2) Trust
Very difficult right to put 100% trust when your spouse is working in a mixed environment where charming ladies and gentlemen are scattered everywhere.( Dont laugh - im giggling as well (^.^)
Please bear in mind, that being beautiful doesnt guarantee you a happy and long lasting marriage if it doesnt come with beautiful attitude. Just remember every individual is beautiful in her/his own way . Ive seen beautiful ladies encoutered multiple divorce ( because people always said - untunglah dia bini lawa/or untunglah dia husband handsome). Put your trust on your spouse.Remember your are the next of kin to your spouse and you know ur spouse better than anyone else did. If any prob arises, discuss from heart to heart with your spouse ( im too have weaknesses when it comes to this). This is very crucial in order to ensure that we dont fall asleep while having this uncontrolled emotional outburst ( i tell u this is very harmful to the relationship). By any mean, try to settle any problem on the same day ( eg:apologize to our partner,admit our mistakes -this is the toughest part) otherwise it will drag all the negativity into the relationship.
3) Being helpful and sincere
Being helpful and sincere sound easy but they aren't. I will give clearer picture by throwing an example.
For instance, if you have 3 children, and you are the only one who managed your children ( fetch them to and from school,send them to kelas agama, teach them homework), are you emotionally and physically drained? can you speak about sincerity during that time? - Question &answer yourselves.
Hence let fullfill our heart with sincerity, we are not helping strangers,we are helping our own family members,to be more exact, our spouse and children.
Our spouse might be super duper busy juggling with their studies and the neverending work at the hospital, hence they might expect some peace when they come back home.Hence, lets make our home a heaven on earth, a home that full of loves and happiness. We can still be happy eventhough we are fatigue, we can still be happy eventhough the mind is exhausted, because we choose to be happy, and ignore the negativity, and here i would like to emphasize that we choose to be happy with our beloved families .It is all about choices that we made =) In every difficulty there must be opportunity...An opportunity that will leads to an endless happiness, insyaallah =)
